Where I’m at Now
(Heads up: Part 1 is in a screenplay form. Each part of this saga would be presented in a form that comes out of me at the time of writing it. As readers (if there are any), I’m warning you to expect many forms because I’m just a diverse person.)
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Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Proverbs 18: 24 (KJV)
A man that have friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Hello Everyone,
This is my story. A story about what? This post is the beginning of a series of post that I would be posting leading up to my own wedding day. I’m sure that the Searching for Her saga will continue on after that big date (Searching for Her: Treasure Found saga,etc.) but in the meantime, this is the beginning of an aspect of my life story (initially). Personally, the two biblical verses that I used as openers are verses that mean a lot to me. In later posts, you all will learn why.
But this brief episode is the saga’s intro, which is called, “Where I’m At Now”
Opening scene
So a lovely friend of Patrick’s invites him to a Christmas Eve event held at her church on 12-24-2009. After the service, there is an Open House event held at one of her church member’s house. There are crowds of people everywhere; the house feels no need to scream, “It’s too stuffy in here, which prohibits me from breathing.” Along with the crowd of people, all of them bring their appetites, which differentiate among the people. However, the host frets not. Patrick’s gigantic appetite has followed him and the brother of a new friend’s appetite has followed him too. While everyone else are fellowshipping and munching on their food, the two gentlemen are chilling in a corner of the enormous living room downing their rice with Mexican gravy and meat and some chicken pot pie while in between holding an introductory conversation–chew, swallow, talk, excuse me, then repeat the cycle. Who knew that the conversation would led to them talking about Patrick’s pursual of a wife.
The brother sits on a chair near the fireplace while Patrick sits on one half of a piano bench–acute from each other.
My Friend’s Brother: So Patrick, with all of your plans mentioned, where does your wife fit in into that?
Patrick: My wife? (How did he know that I’ve been thinking about a wife for awhile?)
While he prepares to reply, Patrick takes a quick bite of his chickenpot pie.
My Friend’s Brother: Yes, when will you make time to find your wife?
Patrick grins. Then, I guess the question makes him reposition himself on the bench. He leans forward with his plate in his left palm and his shiny metal fork resting 3 inches above it.
Patrick: Sir, it’s funny that you will bring that up…
After tucking his fork underneath his chickenpot pie, Patrick taps him on the knee cap.
Patrick: … you know, these days I’ve been thinking about finding a wife. No, a matter of fact, I’ve been looking for a wife.
While Patrick’s friend’s brother leans back in the wooden chair, his wife beside me leaves her half of the piano bench with a smile on her face while heading to the kitchen area.
My Friend’s Brother: Oh really!
Patrick: Yeah, I have. I always believed that if you can grasp something then you can achieve it.
The brother laughs in confirmation.
My Friend’s Brother: That sounds wise.
Patrick swallows his potato salad, and prepares to finish his previous thought.
Patrick: And I strongly believe that “When a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing, and God has found favor with him when he has provided him with a wife.” (Proverbs 18:22)
The brother giggles. Slyfully, he winks at his wife while she returns to her half of the piano bench. She begins conversing with her friends sitting adjacent from her again.
My Friend’s Brother: Yeah, trust me Pat. She definitely will mean you well. See, my brother and I we found our wives in Michigan.
Patrick puts his plate down on the floor beside him. His friend has his full attention more than before now. This is the stage where Patrick asks more questions.
Patrick: Hey, where did you say you and your brother were from again?
My Friend’s Brother: We are both from Northern New Mexico.
Patrick: Ok, but you found your wife from Michigan?
The brother grins because he sees that he has caught my attention too.
My Friend’s Brother: Yes.
With Patrick knowing what he’ll say next, he grins. the brother prepare himself.
Patrick: So, since I’m from Arkansas, should I like you look to find my wife from the Northern part of the United States?
My Friend’s Brother: LOL
Patrick: I mean, you are from the Southwest and you found your wife from the Northeast part of the United States?
My Friend’s brother: You know Patrick, I really haven’t looked at it like that before.
Patrick: Yeah, I’m always looking for new paradigms in viewing things.
My Friend’s Brother: Pat, look around.
They both scan the room.
My Friend’s Brother: Where you are at at this very moment, why would you have to go to the North?
With a sense of confirmation, Patrick replies.
Patrick: Sir, I wear glasses, which enhances my ability to see all of this beauty in this room.
They both look around the room again and begin to laugh.
In Unison: Yes sir!
Patrick: You know sir, it’s not that I haven’t been looking in Las Cruces, New Mexico.
My Friend’s Brother: So, you have been looking? Have you found any potentials?
(As Jacob wrestled against the Angel declaring that, “I won’t let you go until you bless me,” I feel like I wrestle with God with the issue of receiving my other half, which is my wife. Iron sharpens iron; a 100% meets another 100%, which equals a 200% but when divided by two, this sum becomes a unified 100%, a stronger 100%)
Patrick: Oh, I’ve been looking and I’ve found a few potentials. All of them are proving to be great friends, which is something I value tremendously because I would want my wife and I to be the best of friends. Once I had a pastor tell the congregation something about Jesus. Jesus did not only offend the rich and the prideful but, Jesus offended everybody. He said things that people wanted to hear and he said things that people did not want to hear but they knew that it was right.
The brother repositions himself in his sit; he leans forward a little bit now.
A Friend’s brother: He sure did.
Patrick: So with Jesus’ example, the pastor informed the congregation that, within a true relationship of any kind, if someone is prohibited from saying something that may offend someone, although it may be the truth, then that’s not an relationship in the first place. If you really loved someone the way that Jesus did then, we all know that only through the precious blood of Jesus Christ that our sins are truly covered. However, when Jesus spoke to the multitude, he gave them hope through his promises but he also called people out too. For instance, when speaking with the Samaritian woman at the well, he informed her to “Be with your own husband.” When speaking with the adulteress who was about to be stoned, he told her, “Sin no more.” See, all types of relationship should work in this fashion, I believe. There should be this bitter-sweet aspect to all relationships, especially in both individuals’ communication towards each other, if both persons really want to consider themselves in any type of relationship at all. Jesus spoke with truth and in love. I would want my wife and I to speak in truth and love as friends first because I feel that this will prepare us for the promotion later in life.
With excitement and a grin to show on the brother’s face, he speaks.
My Friend’s Brother: Boy! If I had a daughter, I would have secretly signaled her over hear to listen to you speak. I would ask you could you add her on the list as one of your potentials.
We both laugh! He continues.
A Friend’s Brother: So, you have found a few potentials, so what’s the hold up?
With an expression of someone giving up, I speak.
Patrick: Let’s just say that they are not on the market now for varies reasons.
A Friend’s brother: Oh really! (giggles)
Patrick: Yeah, one is recovering from scars from a previous relationship. Another one is undergoing a transitional phrase in her life and since I’ve been through moments like that, I totally respect her decision of not looking for a relationship. The latter female values our friendship but I love her honesty in letting me know that she isn’t attracted to me either. I’ll have to receive some therapy after that remark!
They both laugh.
Patrick: Naw, I’m joking about the last part–the therapy. But I will ask some close friends of mine, “If a person is not attracted to you then, does that mean they will never be interested?” But that conversation would happen on another day.
My Friend’s Brother: Well, I guess that’s that bitter-sweet communication that you are looking for.
Patrick laughs at the brother’s jab.
Patrick: Yeah, you’re funny! But definitely, that is the type of communication that I’m looking for in any relationship. So, when will I incorporate a wife into my plans, brother I’ve tried and I’ve tried to act on it. However, rejections hurt after awhile.
They both laugh at the comment.
Patrick: These are the moments when I ask God, “Is it in your will for me to be married? And if so, should I be looking now?” God knows that I desire a family, with a beautiful wife (spiritually beautiful, naturally beautiful, and intectually and socially beautiful) to raise some beautiful children and I strongly believe that He will bless me with her.
My Friend’s Brother: I’m definitely sure He will do just that. But I guess your main concern is “When will He do that,” am I right?
Patrick: Yes sir! And that’s one area of my life where I steady wrestle with God like how Jacob wrestled with the angel. Because scriptures instruct me to find a wife but it seems like I should not even be looking for her because things are not clicking. Then, I’m reminded of Matthew 6:33, which reads, “First seek ye the kingdom of heaven and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.” With this scripture and Proverbs scripture about a man who finds a wife finds a good thing, I’m left strectching my head with the question,
Said as an overexaggerated plea.
“GUIDE ME because I know not what I’m doing or what I should be doing.”
We both laugh.
(But within Patrick’s heart, his sincerity is totally genuine.)
My Friend’s Brother: Well Patrick, it will all make sense when it makes sense. Just keep on believing, keep on achieving, and keep on waiting. It will work out.
Patrick: Yeah, I have to hold on to the fact that, “Everything works out for the good of those who loves the Lord.” Proverbs 3:6 encourages me too. I feel like as I grow older my trust in God has to increase. Though I trust in God, as mentioned before, I’m wrestling with Him now and I’m at a standstill. All I know is that I should continue to use the air that He gives me to breathe and eat the food that He gives me to eat and sleep on the mattress that He has provided for me to sleep on and use the gifts that He has given me the opportunity to multiply and love and forgive the people that He has called me to love and forgive. Besides that, I give up!
Patrick shakes his head while smiling. The brother laughs.
My Friend’s Brother: Well, you would have more time to accomplish all that you desire to.
Patrick: You’re right but I think that while I was in my previous relationship, God heard me say some things that He is preventing me from saying in the next relationship, which could explain why he is allowing each person to reach their 100% mark before negotiation any deal between the two parties. (haha)
They both laugh.
My Friend’s Brother: Boy, you’re funny but definitely, your mother raised you right.
Patrick: Thanks. I’ll send her your remarks.
They both stand up.
In unison: Dessert time!
We both laugh!
Patrick: Yes sir, with all that laughing, I’ve worked out my six pack! Now, I have room!
My Friend’s Brother: Pat, why you had to go there! But still, you don’t have nothing on my ONE-PACK!!!
They head towards the ktichen laughing.
FIN
Tags: Marriage, relationship
January 18, 2010 at 6:42 am |
What is the most effective way to create sixpack abs?
January 18, 2010 at 6:33 pm |
Each person’s body works different, therefore the results may vary. However, every one who is trying to get themselves into shape needs the strength and the discipline to put in the work. That’s where prayer comes in. As a former collegiate athlete (professional sports became an option later), I’m still in great shape today. Running or even walking a lot definitely works on muscles around your stomach and your abs. Sit-ups and (on your back) leg raises would help too. So, running/walking (a lot) and basic sit-ups would do the job only if you are dedicated in doing a workout plan daily. But as I said, my methods may vary from another person. However, we all need strength, discipline, and motivation to get anything done; I get that from the Lord.